Why can’t some people see the truth?

in You have to give somethingHarry Sanborn, played by Jack Nicholson, defends his position by saying, “I’ve always told you some version of the truth.”

The other side of this complicated relationship is Erica Barry, played by Diane Keaton. He had no intention of running away to him easily.

It can be difficult to wrap around the heart, but some people really struggle to see and match the truth. We are not only a microcosm of relationships, but also a massive universe of business. Politics. But what are the underlying dynamics when someone appears to live in reality against easily proven facts?

The old questions continue

The truth is true. The facts are facts. right?

It’s not for everyone. False, falsehood, misunderstanding, misrepresentation, stupidity, even Deception Or, lying raises questions. How are you convinced that some individuals claim that their views are the only accurate and consistently reject information that indicates they are incorrect?

Insights from developmental psychology

Children are not born with perceptual accuracy. This skill develops over time and is based on many qualities associated with healthy emotional regulation. Children become more logical over time. Perception accuracy It involves both perception and interpretation.

For example, if a child’s pencil goes missing, he says I saw it Someone takes a pencil from the desk. In fact, no one was taken away from the pencil. It tumbled from the desk and out of sight. This is an example Misunderstanding. But there is one in it Sensation Often accurate interpretation Inaccurate. For example, when a child hears a dog’s bark, she might believe it means someone is at the front door. she has Perception Correctly – the dog had bark. But the child’s interpretation Incorrect event. The dog barked, not because there was someone at the door, but because he saw a squirrel race across the grass.

Over time, children will improve their ability to recognize and interpret accurately. Real-world experiences and relationship development challenge and support these skills. However, this developmental process can be confused by many things. traumatragedy, abuse, and/or problematic nurturing in general can hinder the development of accurate processing skills and cause lifelong problems in both perception and interpretation of information.

Structural limitations common to people suffering from perceptual accuracy

These less healthy perceptual skills undermine your ability to see and utilize the truth.

Hannah tried out a new dress and showed it to her husband. When he heard him, he said, “The colour is not my favorite.” Hannah was furious. “I think you look fat,” there was a discussion about what he said, what she heard, and whether he said, whether he rolled his eyes.

Many of these flaws are based on emotional limitations that grow from flaws of personality structure.

Potential structural defects

Emotional Needs: People often think that someone is “in need.” In this example, emotional need refers to Unmet emotional needs that may hinder the accuracy of perception. A person’s emotional needs can be so strong and overwhelming that it is “necessary” to cloud accurate perceptions and interpretations and see the world in a specific way. In a way, their needs are overwhelming Cognitionand in the process, the accuracy is lost.

Example: When Treatment Starting first, Elizabeth softened the statement by talking about her mother “a little difficult” and claiming she was “well-intentioned.” She often used phrases such as “not that bad.” This view of her family history initially existed in every session, but over time she realized that she underestimated her mother’s difficulties and misinterpreted her mother’s behavior and the effects it had in childhood. She literally couldn’t see the problem or its scope.

poor Self-concept: Poor self-concepts can lie behind false perceptions. People with poor self-concepts need facts to line up with their perspective, indicating that they are right and even better. The difference is threatening. For them, Their It’s the method method, Their The view is Right view.

Example: Leon was handsome and clever, but he knew everything. He is talented in mathematics and physics, and thought he was superior to his peers and intolerant to those who opposed him. Several other students had similar skill levels, but he did not see or appreciate their gifts. He monopolized the ranks and defeated the efforts of others when they spoke. His self-awareness was bloated and inaccurate.

The need for external verification: Emotional hunger hinders perception accuracy and, in addition, presents challenges to the relationship. Such individuals are so emotionally empty there is a very insatiable need for verification. Therefore, they tend to adopt the opinions of people they respect rather than form their own. When others do not share their views on the facts, they tend to feel threatened. Their needs undermine their perceptual abilities and are often translated into a harsh view of what is important to them.

Example: Heather was a cheerleader and a highly regarded fitting. Sylvia was the lead cheerleader and team captain. Heather parroted Sylvia’s opinion on the cutest guys in school and the hottest style. When her classmates disagreed with her, she angered and denied. She was unaware of the impact Sylvia had on her thoughts.

Healthy perceptual processing

If someone has healthy perceptual accuracy, their emotional needs will not disrupt or affect their perception. They have enough emotional strength to endure injuries and insults. They don’t need to see things in the given way to support them Self-esteem.

Flexibility is common to healthy perceptual processing. Perceptually accurate individuals include information, research, and collaboration To confirm the truth. They know bias prejudiceopens to different perspectives and willingly acknowledge that their views may not be correct.

Perceptually accurate people tend to demonstrate subtle thoughts, and they are not prone to premature conclusions, prejudices or condemnation. Such a way of thinking can be seen in thoughtful comments such as “This is how it looks to me” and “This is how I saw it at the time.” They invite other perspectives: “How is it looking for you?”

As a group, people with excellent perceptual skills tend to be emotionally well regulated. When upset, they are not prone to misinterpret or misinterpret events or actions. Emotions do not easily affect their cognitive skills. Their processing skills remain stable in the face of pain.

Example: On a foreign holiday, Jane returns to her room to find her earrings missing. Her first thought went to the only other person who entered the room, the housekeeper. But before acting on that concept, she conducted a thorough search. She asked her roommate for help. She reconsidered her position and then recalls that she had left them on previous occasions. After that, Jane began looking for another explanation.

Signs of a healthy exploration of truth

• Comparing the advantages and disadvantages of each fact in question
• Looking for research and expert advice on conflicting topics
• Perform a factual investigation and consider other possibilities, interpretations and explanations.
• Stay open to criticism, conflict, and differences in perspective
• Showing stability Emotional regulation Faced with a controversy
• I’m grateful for the different perspectives
• Resisting responsiveness to criticism and differences
• Check your own perceptions and interpretations

The value of perceptual accuracy

For mature adults, you can decipher, accept and appreciate the importance of truth as a key skill. Limitations of emotional maturity based on structural flaws in personality often explain the skill deficit here. Such limitations are often associated with personality disorders. narcissism In particular, the conditions that I discuss in my book; Childhood Narcissism: Strategies for raising selfish, non-sympathetic, empathic children. Whatever the underlying cause, honing your skills in this field is a valuable effort. Accurate recognition and interpretation contribute to healthy relationships, good teamwork and civilized society.