What is your core fear? Are you ready to give up on that?

For most of us, our childhoods somehow make us fear. It can affect not only spiders and heights, but also our relationships, limit our options and become the core of shaping our actions in key ways. Knowing you will help you to tackle it directly. This is the most common:

The fear of abandonment

You have learned that people can leave and ultimately leave you through escape, death, and emotionally unavailable. As a child, you have limited ways to deal with it. You can cling to, control, or be good, perfect and adjustable.

The fear of choking

If there is abandonment fear Some people struggle with getting too close when others move too far. The intimacy they learn can lead to control, handover and emotional choking. How can I manage this fear? Keep others arm length, don’t reveal themselves, rely on hypers, or push others away anger Or control.

Fear of strong emotions

If you grew up in a chaotic, emotionally unstable home, then the strong emotions created anxietyand you probably deal with it by walking on the eggshell and spending your time in an emotional climate, so you knew when to withdraw and protect yourself.

The fear of being seen

Here, if people really get to know you, then they have learned at best that you are a con artist who is truly you, or at worst, a sneaky person you already see as yourself. Intimacy leads to bust. As a result, you have learned to keep others at arm distance by creating and avoiding superficial capes, like people who are afraid to suffocate. Intimate Or vulnerability.

The fear of invisible

No one cares about you. You’ll get lost in the shuffle. You have no voice and will be rejected immediately. You have two options: accept your destiny, give up, or blame yourself for such treatment, or rebel against it: act to make others see you, narcissismand manipulate others to make the world revolve around you.

Again, these fears are common and your fears Childhood How to deal with your childhood makes sense. But maybe you upgrade that software and change your behavior and become sensitive to these old demons. Here’s how to get started:

I know your fears

Retreat 50 feet and see the patterns of your life: Where will you get stuck in your relationship? What continues to be the problem? What causes you to leave, too long or not to talk?

Please change your story

It is your assumptions about your story, you, others, and the world that partially maintain your fear. You can’t trust people, you’re a scammer, etc.

Get closer to what you fear

That bright, shining antidote runs towards what you fear. If you’re scared to speak up, you’re arrested or fired, or people leave or control you, you risk speaking up. This is how to rewire your brain and cancel those old horrors. You know that what you think will happen is not. The world is not scary.

Take a step forward for babies

Don’t hurry up and summon yourself. As long as you move forward, it’s fine to be slower. If you are overwhelmed, you may quit.

The theme here is that we all can’t do, and that we have some old wounds that continue to shape our lives. By continuing to give us our fear, they will maintain their power. The key is to defy these old patterns behaviorally. When you do that, you really become an adult where you are.