Totality resulting from breakdown

Loss crushes us. It puts us on our knees, leaving us alive, vulnerable, lost and uncertain about how we will proceed. But at the depth of sorrowcan celebrate yourself and your loved ones by summoning new courage and fighting the path back to life. The path from fragileness and contradictory sadness is not to “movement,” “recovery,” or “overcome,” but to patiently allow our breakdown to become part of a deeper, more self-intimate part of our wholeness.

Grief demands that we listen to ourselves. It requires you to calm your thoughts, put your hands on your heart, and realize that you need to provide loving care for your heart. Sometimes this just means taking a deep breath. Self-care is a walk in nature and may surround yourself with people who watch stupid movies, go to support groups, listen to us, nourish us, and support us. We must give permission to grieve in a way that fulfills our deepest needs and feelings, rather than to adhere to the norms and expectations of others.

Self-compassion is at the heart of healing from all kinds of losses. Keeping our hands in mind gives us the patience, understanding, faith, encouragement and support we need to endure the pain by leaving our feet from our throats. Instead of blaming ourselves for grief with judgment, impatience, and harsh self-criticism, we can learn to acknowledge pain with words like: Why did I not feel lost? Accepting our sorrows with kindness and patience, we integrate love, patience and understanding into our new structure of reality.

Over the years, we have discovered eight “honors” that will lead us to a sense of integrity and healing after we suffered losses. All of these guidelines are covered in my book. How to proceedto help those I supported on the dark nights of my soul and to survive, to change deep sadness, despair, helplessness, and confusion with faith, love, courage Resilienceand meaning.

1. They will survive after they die – We praise those who are lost by summoning the power to continue. We do this by practicing self-care, surrounded by people who are patient, kind and supportive to ourselves, learning when we say yes and say no, and developing courage, faith and perseverance to fight the path back to life.

2. Do good things in their names – All the good acts we perform Memory Of our loved ones, it is sacred. For example, you can honor them by lighting candles, saying prayers, reflecting their values, or engaged in causes related to the way they died.

3. Cultivation a spiritual Relationship with them – We may not be absolutely certain about what comes after this life, but we can maintain a connection with our loved ones. We can utilize, cultivate, express and even deepen our love that never dies in what I call the spiritual realm.

4. It embodies part of the essence – We honor our loved ones by integrating the sacred aspects of their personality into our own lives. If they are kind, let us be kind. If they are brave, let us be brave. If they are playful, let us play more. This is another honorable way to keep them alive within us.

5. Walking the high path – The pain of sadness can make us temper, reactive and raw. But it can also give compassion, empathy and understanding. We must learn to use pain to be patient, toleranceand understanding – expanding blessing to those around us.

6. Writing a new chapter in life – This is the most challenging of all respect and requires great courage. Giving ourselves permission to live for the rest of our own lives can be painfully difficult. Write a new chapter after they are gone and forgive joy, LOLand the love that goes home may seem like an dishonest betrayal of our lingering sadness. As we progress, we may be able to imagine them feeling the peace of mind that we have found our love and the strength and courage we will continue.

Sadness is paradoxical. My daughter, Jenna, is gone, but even so, she has never left my side. I had her body when then President Clinton knew she was gone. But she has been with me for 29 years. I pay tribute to my unconditional love for my Angel Daughter, Jenna, and my Earth Daughter, Stephanie. Being broken and whole is the essence of healing, and continuing life after a tragic loss. I limp through my mind, but still I continue to walk. there is no shame In my broken state. That’s really the most important part of my wholeness.

As we take a deep breath, we respect those we have lost and continue to write stories of our own life. Thankslove, hope, faith wisdomwe must humbly praise this mysterious and unknown element of life.