The magic of learning from your experience

Every day is unique. It can bring you good times, difficult times, challenges, or opportunities at any time. We may not have much impact on external events or the inevitable challenges of life, but we do It influences our own choices and responses.

If we are motivated towards a resilient everyday life, we may want to reflect on our experiences in ways that induce enlarged awareness, understanding, and greater wholeness. This kind of exploratory thinking can benefit from many benefits. For example, why some people learn and grow bigger wisdom From experience, did others not?

In a 2018 study, psychologists Judith Gulak, Susan Black, and Nick Westlateau propose five resources related to developing wisdom and learning from life experiences.

1. I have a sense of mastery. Trust your ability to deal with and deal with life situations. Having the ability to accept a situation can make you act out of control and do what you can.
2. Openness to experience. The willingness to see situations from various perspectives. Find new ideas, experiences, and emotions – Explore the goal And values ​​are different from your own.
3. Reflectance. A willingness to look into your experiences and think about complex issues in a deep and thoughtful way. He is willing to think critically about ideas, assumptions, and experiences to gain better understanding and insights.
4. Emotional regulation. They have the ability to tolerate emotions, manage emotions, and learn from responses to various situations.
5. empathy. Concerns about others. The ability not only for family and friends, but also for people from the larger world to understand and share the emotions of others.

Learn from Experience Build Resiliencethe ability to adapt to life’s challenges. Research shows when learners have growth way of thinkingthey believe their abilities can develop and expand. With experience and hard work, they can make things better. in Growth thinkingpeople are more resilient and can learn more effectively (Dweck, 2006; Stanford University, 2024).

Learning process by doing it, Experience learningstrengthens the ability to grow, promotes self-assessment, social-emotional cognitive development, strengthens understanding, problem-solving, skills building, and decision making. Strategies to get caught up in one resilience include thinking about these questions. “What have you learned from this experience?” and “What can I learn?”

Strategies that help you learn from experience

There are many ways to learn from experience. These three strategies can be useful.

1. We will recognize and reflect your experience. Anyone can choose to learn bigger rather than slip into familiar habits. To enhance your awareness, learning and insight, you may consider your inner journey and truly realize your own experiences and others’ experiences.

One useful tool is PARDA 5 Step Awakening and Action Process (Berns-Sare, 2020; 2024):

1. Pause and Pay attention to the flow of breath.
2. Please listen proactively Your intuitive wisdom and Inner voice.
3. Reflect About your experience – Self-compassionate. Beware of your thoughts, Emotions and physical sensations.
4. Identify When you sift through your consciousness, reality, possibilities, and choices.

5. Activities intentionally. What is the next correct thing?

   Choose the following steps in your mind for reflection and action.

Pause. Please listen proactively. Reflect. Identify. Take your heartfelt action to choose the next step.

Some people may want to reflect on their experiences with personal reflection, Mindful Moment and contemplation. Others may choose to write, note, or create a visual. Collect these reflections in a journal (handwritten or electronic), and you can create note pages on your phone, tablet, or computer.

2. Asking yourself open-ended questions that make you think about yourself may inspire reflection and openness to your experiences. You can go back to them as many times as you need for meaningful reflections. Here are some questions you might consider:

• What can we learn from this experience?
  • What worked?
  • What can I do next time?
  • Where is self-compassion suitable for me?
  • What do you know, certainly?
  • Which of my strengths can be used here?
  • What can you learn about yourself, others, and the situation?
  • How can I grow from this experience?

3. Learning and growing with others. You may find it helpful to learn at as you look back on your experiences and seek greater proficiency to deal with them friendship or partnership with others. You can explore and argue as you share with them, whether you actively listen and agree with their perspective.

Moving towards the way you think about learning from your experiences offers opportunities to grow smarter, more resilient.

© 2025 ILENE BERNS-ZARE, LLC. Unauthorized reproduction is prohibited.

Disclaimer: This post is for informational purposes only. There is no substitute for consultations with qualified mental health or healthcare professionals.