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Perfectionism, chronic self-sacrifice that pleases people, means merely the world. The irony is that for many people Perfectionistthese worlds are mere ideals, and there is little or no basis for past reality, especially in childhood. But they have most Super natural The type you want.
Did you truly believe that your efforts and determination had endless possibilities? At the bottom, perfectionism is the inability to adapt and accept one’s limitations. In many cases, you can also personalize your failures. I feel neat and rational in part because I am immersed in the rules and not following and following it, and not following the world as a perfectionist. And they understand it through their activities.
However, the results are complicated because they are diverse. But for perfectionists who tend to personalize (take too much responsibility for the outcome), it often feels as if that’s not the case. Perfectionism and idealism tend to get hands and hands, which allows you to perfect yourself in several important ways that perfect your world. Children often do this when dealing with emotionally reactive and unpredictable parents. So they internalize responsibility and fear punishment To stand up for yourself. And many adults continue to live this way, believing that by avoiding conflict and being merely good people, they can indirectly solve interpersonal problems. This mechanism is Unconscious Many perfectionists automatically feel embarrassed themselves when they appear to be at fault.
So, as you can imagine, they are often misused. Essentially, whether they are defensive, denying some degree of bad behavior, or taking too much responsibility, perfectionists have deep roots fear Shame, especially when you feel embarrassed by others. When we deny responsibility, shame disappears through delusion. This is obvious and often doesn’t need to be said. However, personalization is the opposite unhealthy form of managing the pain around shame. In this regard, individuals unconsciously believe it It’s embarrassing You yourself take the precaution. You now take some (although I still believe you can improve), so you don’t need to accept it more later. If another person can reasonably demonstrate that he is working to get better by doing wrong and punishing himself, the other may feel sympathy for them. Perfectionists rely on the individual to recognize their efforts and therefore spare from the truth of the innate badness of perfectionists.
While deep belief in the reality of this evil, perfectionists at the same time hope and believe that they can overcome it. So perfectionism is philosophythe belief that it should and should be completely perfect, always, or at least in regard to meaningful traits, or at least in regard to masochism defined as self-satisfaction, is the enforcement of it. I’m writing about self-destruction personality Style, Nancy McWilliams, said, “they may feel certain discomfort and deny that they are protesting the goodwill of the perpetrator.” “I am sure she is very meaningful and truly has my best interest,” I asked. “Yeah, I thought she was trying to teach me something important,” he replied.
The underlying message for people is often “please don’t expose me.” Some people feel embarrassed about their success. Some people feel embarrassed to be selfish or greedy. And some are embarrassed to have desirable internal or external properties. But it is true that more privileged individuals can always do more for others, but some may benefit from asking their chronic sensations Guilt It helps create situations in which they are abused or blamed for something that is not entirely their fault. In the example above, individuals believe that others see good in others because it is easier for them to believe in the innate good of others. However, the obvious failure is adaptation, and accepts the limitation that it cannot change the perspective of others. To thank his employer is unlikely to like her.
Learning to tolerate external shame can feel more manageable than its internal counterpart, and can easily scare you for future revelation and general consequences, and free the perfectionist. In Just World Model, like past economists, perfectionists believe that others are rational or at least in time. This model assumes that efforts are almost always in vain.
Whether the root source is separate anxietyMcWilliams, or the shame that comes with it, has argued, whether we fear disappointing our boss, parents, or partner will ultimately need to decide who is at this moment. If you leave it to others, their whims, hatred, jealousy, can inform their perception. And if we postpone learning to do this until we are perfect, we may at best not know ourselves, and at worst, we cannot live for ourselves. It is true that we need others for self-awareness, but living and dying from a certain point of view of some important others is another. We tend to collect multiple views, as individuals tend to be wrong in themselves and sometimes deliberately. In treatment, many patients often return to the question, “Am I a bad person?” The horrifying thing is that even if we help us do so, it is our responsibility to answer it for ourselves.
