The Art of Lost Persuasion

Over the years, almost every client has shown a strong desire to persuade others that they are right, moral, praise, or at least worth acceptance.

Normal explanation of the reason Persuasion Important:

• Achieve the goal Implementing ideas
• Building relationships and social support
• Influencing decision making and behavior
• Dispute resolution and driving changes.

How often does one of them happen in our polarized world?

Viewable paradox

Recent public discourse is marked by the great Confidence A simple solution to complex problems. However, it seems that they cannot convince anyone who has not agreed to them yet. This is because confidence in implicit certainty is likely to stimulate contradictory, if not repulsive. Confidence can easily appear as a loyal user or condescending. Usually it’s too simplistic and nested Confirmation bias.

The emotion of certainty is the enemy of learning, as everything we know emphasizes what we don’t know. know It’s a lack of doubt. Self-deception It’s a suppression of doubt. Self-deception is unlikely to persuade anyone.

Persuasion only occurs with positive consideration. You never convince people that you are right through accusations, criticisms, negative traits, labelling, name calls, or other forms of disrespect. These behaviors are more autobiographical than revealing other behaviors. So they’re projected and biased.

Frustration Qualification Feedback Loop

Underlying the death of persuasion is a dangerous feedback loop of qualifications and frustration. We seem to feel that we have a right to control what others think and what they say. Frustration of qualifications seems to incite unfair and stimulating resentment angerthis makes persuasion less likely, more resentment and anger, and more elusive persuasion.

Anger and resentment prepare us to attack and retaliate. This means that it could devalue, warn, intimidate, intimidate, or harm, and not be forced to persuade you either explicitly or in our heads.

The strength of the feedback loop is partly the result of normal brain processing. Mental focus exaggerates importance. Our focus is more important than what we are not focusing on. People are focused on their own perspective, which makes others unable to see and much more unacceptable. In that sense, we all became narcissism.

How to be narcissistic

It can happen if you read too much on the internet. Lots of articles, posts and blogs can incorrectly contribute to monocular vision and undermine our ability to see other perspectives together with ourselves. Indications that this is happening to us include the use of catchwords like “”.Gas light“Or limiting your understanding of “narcissists,” or personal and social issues to those that fit your signature on bumper stickers or political gatherings or protests. They may then confuse opinions with scientific discoveries and only accept facts that support prejudice.

Persuasion and loss

Some people suffering losses are more compassionate. Some people choose to resize revenge. It’s always a choice. Loss reduces the need to persuade, but inflates the perceived need for verification and control.

How to get out of the loop

Karl Jung showed us the way over a century ago. If you get mad at like-minded people, be more open-minded. If you are anxious about people who are judged, you will be less judged. If you want to get tests around stubborn people, be more supportive. If you can’t stand being interrupted, be a better listener. If you can’t bring strict people, you’ll be more flexible. If you’re excited by rude people, give them more respect. If you get mad at like-minded people, be more open-minded. If you tend to be impatient with judgement, be more curious and less judgement. If you can’t stand the average people, be kind. If you hate abusive people, be considerate of your loved ones.