Have you ever had any life experiences?

“I (Merlin) have to run from front to back while surrounded by many people from the front. – Th White

Karen didn’t have it Near-death experience. She had what she called “almost biological experiences.” While scrolling through life, Karen didn’t think much about the quality of life or the meaning of her life. Then she lost her father.

When she walked her sorrowthe realization that life was over, struck her hard on her face. In the mountains Procrastinationevasion, and Screen timeshe realized she was not alive. At the very least, she wasn’t involved in life in a way that she valued her everyday as an extraordinary opportunity to interact with things that matter.

So she wrote a book Your Todai for Life: How to Maximize Your Joy and Minimize Regret… Before your time runs out. It wasn’t her first book. She is the bestseller author. But this was the first she faced the two most frightening things humans face: death and what you should do sometimes.

A meaningful life

Karen discusses her experiences in this way that are close to her life. “I called too much and swiped. So I wasn’t entirely in life. I wasn’t close to life, but I was adjacent to it. I went out for dinner with a friend.

Losing the person we love often creates a kind of disparity. After losing your father, Karen discusses your facial recognition. “I woke up to the idea that death is real. Life is short. When someone you really love dies, it’s a hit. For Karen, a lot of this meant realizing what she really wanted.

She said, “There’s the death of my father to thank my son for his birth. After he passed away, my father was really saddened that he couldn’t see me as a mom… In a strange way, he kicked me out saying that his death would one day have a baby than my biological clock.”

Of course, finding the meaning of life doesn’t mean having children all the time. Our relationships are often central. It is also constantly growing and changing. When we realize that we may be approaching the end of our lives, people often describe the experience of life flashing in front of us.

Karen believes this process can be complicated in understanding meaning and finding purpose. According to Karen, “The end-of-life goal is to grow into the best version of yourself.”

However, this does not have to be the pinnacle of pleasant experiences and emotions. Sometimes it doesn’t feel “good” that we find importance. It means that for us we are suffering or doing something painful to the person who is in trouble. She explains people’s common problems: “For the joy of confusion happiness. ”

Rather, Karen urges us to become “Chausier’s choice choice” by living intentionally.

I live in the back

So, how do we do this? General empirical in acceptance and commitment Treatment (Act) is to ask someone what their best friend says at their 100th birthday party if they lived their life exactly as they wanted (Luoma et al., 2007).

Karen reflects similar ideas of reverse engineering when considering how we want to live.

In medicine, the concept of “quality of life” is rarely discussed outside of palliative care. Feeling that this argument should begin as soon as possible, Karen said, “Don’t wait until you have a near-death experience, or a healthy scare you to start thinking about the death, meaningful life of someone nearby.”

This process often requires seeking guidance. We may reach out to the counselor, spiritual leaderfamily members or others will explore what this means to us.

Karen said, “I’m not a terminal doula, I’m a doula in the middle of my life expectancy. shame The beginning of our lives is that there is no end doulas. Because why do we have to wait until the end to peace, closure and understand what is important? So, as a doula in life, I say that I will do that end of the end now, so that there are more runways to change our lives. ”

Write your eulogy

One of the exercises Karen recommends is to write a compliment for yourself. Her book has a blank tribute practice to help readers reflect what they want in their lives.

Karen said, “After my father passed away, I began to think of this ritual of giving him his eulogy and giving him compliments. You summarise someone’s life like 500 words, so I wrote my eulogy.

There is a perception that eulogies will reach beyond the checklist. She said, “What are most compliments? They are stories that relate to core values. Identity– The story of the bass. ”

Identity-based habits

Another strategy Karen advocates is “identity-based habits.”

I had never heard of this idea before this conversation. Karen describes it as the idea that we need to be us to live our lives in that ambitious compliment. This kind of journey is designed to inspire what we cherish.

Identity-based habits mean taking into account what is important to us and making choices based on them. “I am,” Karen said.

Building our lives in our core values means more than creating a list of life the goal. In Karen’s words, “You can do everything on your to-do list, and we can die unhappy because our to-do list has the fatal flaws that they worship. Productivity“”I recommend people create a to-die list. This is like creating most lists. ”

Identity-based habits and Karen’s “To-Die List” doesn’t talk about lists of activities like bucket lists. Rather, she argues, “First, get to know which core values are important to you, then choose your habit.”

I have no regrets

Beyond popular tattoos, it is not uncommon for people at the end of their lives to lament what hasn’t been done. In the book, there is a study of general regrets about dying and how to create a plan now to avoid regret.

Reliability This is the main component. Karen has expressed a journaling prompt: “What do you need to know about things you don’t want to know?” Such a reflective question is designed to peel off Self-deceptiona general catalyst for fraud.

closure

The meaning of life is an individualized structure. But it’s worth it, taking the time to cultivate how to define this. Your Todai’s life This overwhelming process is divided into easy-to-manage parts.