Four ways to stay nearby when growing in various directions

As with all living things, our relationship is constantly evolving. The people we have seemed very different from those who were at our beginning of our relationship. Our needs and needs should change naturally as we approach our true self.

This is a good thing, isn’t it? absolutely. Continuous development is a source of true fulfillment and helps you continue to flow energy in your relationship. Nevertheless, what happens if you and your partner have different desires in growth, or if you begin to grow in a very different direction?

Growth can be terrible for one partner or both. Especially when you feel that you can’t recognize your beloved person. How can a partner be growing together? First, we need to be able to name the changes we have experienced.

Changes that you may experience in your relationship

The following are the most common pivots that may have a partner if they are not processed carefully. Check if one of these will resonate with you:

• Priority shift Or a desire With myself Careerhobby, SexWhether you have a child, where you live, or the level of ambition
• Personal growth and individualization It stimulates a new attitude and behavior pattern. For example, please rejoice and overcome the people who are learning. The contradiction of individuals’ desire for individual growth can have a particular impact.
• change alcohol use, Is it advanced or drinking? Use of drug abuse
• spiritual Awakening Remove a new perspective, language, friends, and something that doesn’t match anymore
• Physical or mental health status The change needs, abilities,//or personality
• Changes in political views and value Or strengthen the same thing
• Raising children It is necessary to balance the demands when you are young, or manipulate the relationship between adults and children and become malicious.

Actively deal with changes

This is 4 c ‘It starts with the power of your heart to surf the tide of your relationship and surf the large and small.

1. Consciousness: Accept and trust the change process individually and as a couple.

Our way of thinking has a significant impact on the future we will create. We intuitively know this Research on resilience Supports the connection of this mind result. Don’t resist or judge the brewed changes, but be interested. Self -reflected to understand the fundamentals of your concerns. Explore your fears to help you overcome them.

It is open to see if this process will ultimately grow into you and your partner and bring profits. This “abundant way of thinking” gives the best results as possible.

Easy panic And look at the reality from the state of destiny. Pause. Take a breath. relax. (PBR) Remember that it is common and natural to evolve as a partner by doing what you feel.

2. Communication: Share openly and ask what you really understand.

We cannot reach anywhere in our relationship without creating a friendly environment to speak. Every day, especially at difficult points. It is essential to choose time to engage when you are calm. Partners need to open each other about their thoughts and fears, dreamAnd needs. This makes you feel more connected and open the gate for mutual solutions.

In my book Soulful marriage,, We provide a “love seat listening method” and support the partner sitting on a love seat and replacing it. The idea is to make sure that each partner is completely asked and understood. The partner who needs to be sitting on a love sheet on a turn (pHOR or literally) and needs to be opened without interruption is slow, which helps each partner to be reduced.

3. Commitment: Actively prioritize the relationship and partner.

Partners can survive a big change when they feel valuable, valued, and accepted. This is when you are in two places at once. When you advance to your discovery and invest in making your partner a priority. It is also called differentiation, but it can be autonomous while maintaining it at the same time. Intimacy。

To give priority to your partner, you can focus on what you appreciate, take care of them in the way they feel, and to accept them unconditionally. Masu. If you are afraid of the changes you see, take into account your heart and your partner’s deeper dreams and desires. Think about what they are experiencing. If you are looking for a change, don’t judge it slowly and sympathize with your partner’s emotions.

4. Common base: I shared the grown profits and found my purpose as a couple.

Now is the time to be creative. You may already have your life activities and people to connect you. Please focus on these.

Create a list of shared values. Note that you will feel near you, even in micromos. Try what you have never experienced before. It is possible bonding。 The important thing is to increase your similarity and invest in things that contract.

Go further, use your relationship to get more gifts and remove the outside of the group. the study Showed to wake up the spirit of Generosity Through altruism, the desire between partners is improved. Connect your head to your mind, blur the simple way you can give together, support each other’s passion, and improve the world.

Conclusion

Growth and changes are woven in the essence of who we are. Focus on your personal growth and do your best to get close to something that you feel unpredictable and unfamiliar. Sometimes you need to let go of the relationship, but it’s OK, but give time.

The relationship experiences many seasons. Know that when you open yourself to grow on the way, you can manage a considerable difference and find a deep fulfillment together.