Fear, psychology of big and small today

I always thought that phobia was a dramatic restraint that stopped your life by dying like a germaphobe who actually lives in Saranlap to avoid contamination or a man who can’t fly to his sister’s wedding panic attack. I know of Agora fobs that rarely go out. period. The phobia was about such a great fear that those experiencing them wanted to see the joys of life, like a VIP pass to family and Coachella. The phobia thought they were extreme Neuropathy Dimensions…until I realized that I had a little bit lately.

Many people probably have one or two small people Fear. Like me, they can easily hide or easily overlook them, even from yourself. Especially if they don’t have a particular impact on your life. But like me, I think no matter how much they reject it, they may be psychologically important.

When I was in my college dorm room, I first came to the idea that I couldn’t leave my bed like I casually did my bed. I was not exactly disapproved. In a hurry, I either keep my clothes everywhere or scattered across the desk. But I had to make a bed. Why did I not know. It was also not important enough to understand it.

A few years later I realized that strange fear saturated me, even if I thought about leaving my bed out of hand. I didn’t want to think about it. I had to make sure that didn’t happen. So I made my own bed, that was it. No matter where I lived, the places I lived with were always bed-making people. I’m still in bed making due to the embarrassment of housework with my longtime husband.

Obviously, this is harmless Fear. If phobia is good, then it may even be good. Does anyone like a neat bedroom? I never thought about it again. Creating a psychological awakening requires major life changes.

That life change was something that I was approaching retirement And I want to enjoy it completely. Not by chance, but I was also beginning to realize that I was a rather obsessive person, so I started. Psychoanalysis It reaches the very roots of my consciousness and shows me how I have grown from them. Treatment It alleviated my deepest anxiety. In the process, it also freed me from my impulses, including my small phobia.

This bedmaking impulse seems unworthy to discuss with my psychoanalyst or anyone. In fact, I explained itself in the process of discovering my core issues, like the enduring effect of my father’s death when I was two years old. I suffered from the wastage of a very sick father in our midst, as there was no mother to express my fears, or to provide explanations and comfort. I was terrified a few months later when he passed away or disappeared in the minds of my toddler. I was confused when no one ever talked about him again. A three-room apartment, a bedroom adjacent to the kitchen where my mother prepared morphine injections, and a bed where my father spent all his time, a life and death drama unfolded in front of me.

I now understand that my fears have attached myself to that bed. In analysis, I finally understood the power and dimensions of that fear. And maybe me too sorrow. I was intimately familiar with those feelings. In me TransitionI projected them onto my analyst. But with her help and my own adult resources, I was able to revisit that emotional confusion and maintain it until I was able to fully incorporate it.

When I did it, the fear of a bed without a maid dissipated, and only the habit of raising it remained. By the end of the treatment, I was able to leave my bed until lunch, allowing me to hike the trail in the morning coolness. Once or twice, I left bed confused until the evening, but as soon as I realized it, I made it straight away. With crisp edges and plump pillows, even though they’ll fall asleep within an hour.

My phobia itself, my irrational fear of leaving my bed out of hand, was minimally invasive, as you might say. As a practical matter, I really didn’t need to deal with it. But, no matter how important, most phobias express the unpleasant feelings you want –or Has it-To avoid that. That probably means it is worth investigating in a psychoanalytic spirit.

The phobic object may seem trivial. But it goes with that Feeling If you follow your lead, you can probably talk to you a lot Childhood Or until you feel that way. Along the way, it may happen to you that little phobia is not abnormal, as it was for me. It might fit a bigger picture, it’s worth a look. It may feel wonderful and free.

Coda: The night I wrote this blog, I unconsciously left the bed uncovered and pulled up the messy covers at bedtime without thinking again.