Does the wounds of being a ghost make us impulsive?

ghostthe sudden and unexplained end of communication in a relationship is now a common form of rejection. Unfortunately, ghosts have been normalized as a stealthy act of abandonment in the digital world. This is an explosive act that we can all escape.

However, ghosts are not just refusal, but they are painful in itself. Being ghosted leaves us completely without closure or explanation. We are not only doing our best by loss, but we are also spinning with anti-mination, confusion, self-doubt. This confluence of dark forces is the perfect setup for impulsive online behavior and other maladaptive habits.

Anyone who has been ghosted, professionally or personally, by someone close or important, knows how devastating ghosts are. Considering recent research showing emotional damage in ghosts, serious considerations Note Towards this issue, more psychotherapists, educators, healthcare providers, and our peers, friends and family are aware and prepared to deal with the fallout of ghosts.

However, many of us are left behind ghosts without social support from close friends, available families, or experts. We continue ourselves and try to escape the inner devil of anti-induction by reaching out for low-fruits of distractions online.

Being a ghost, impulsiveness and more

Over the past five years, studies have shown that ghosts can cause anti-induction, self-doubt, and low Self-esteemuncertainty, anxiety, anxiety, depressionand Loneliness. In short, you might name the sum of these reactions pain. (These well-known studies include “Psychological Correlations of Ghosts and Bread crumbs Experiences: Preliminary Study of Adults, “Ghosts’ Emotional Experiences.” 2023, the enlightening report, “Ghosts: Abandonment of the Digital Age,” helps you analyze research and understand how these emotions cause pain.

Pain, anti-mination, anxiety, and expanded thinking can all be the driving forces of impulsive, compulsive, and unhealthy online behavior – Manifesto As an unlimited digital habit. Imagine an 18-year-old student being ghosted by a girl he worships in 10 months Dateand to escape his pain, he turns to the dark web, or dark net, for an escape. This stab of loss and betrayal overcoming his ability to regulate his feelings or his feelings Fantasy (Fantasy of Mitada) or Control His Online Impulse. He is vulnerable to everything from political radicalization to participation in incel culture (unconscious single culture).

Or, consider the father of an unemployed 40-year-old father after three lengthy interviews with an employer, feeling helpless and angry. He jumps at Tiktok with inflammatory comments aimed at creators who appear to have privileges and rights.

Or maybe a 60-year-old woman suddenly becomes a ghost to her dear friend, looking for a dating app that leads to countless disappointments and heartaches.

In any of these scenarios, it is not surprising that any of these ghostly suffering people can end up impulsive and impulsively Compulsive behavior. Shaking in the aftermath of abandonment such as ghosts, we are vulnerable to seeking that all of us belong to escape, entertainment, shopping, dating, or the unstable place where only the internet can take us. And no one needs to know our hidden guilty pleasures or our secret charms to the topic of taboo. Recovering from a loss that no one understands is our own private world.

Considering these online behaviors, I discovered three surprising studies that reveal how ghosts become predictors of problems Social Media Use, fantasies of maladaptation, and vulnerable narcissism.

How anti-mission promotes impulsiveness and obsessive behavior online (two studies)

One 2024 study It took place in Italy at 548 Social Network Users (average age of 29) focus on excessive engagement, where anti-mission is a key factor in obsessive social media use. This study was published in Addictive Behavior “In eliciting cravings and PSNSU (using problematic social network sites) of individuals experiencing psychological distress, the thought of worry, anti-induction and desire can be a central cognitive process.”

The problematic use of social network sites (PSNSU) leads us to leave our daily responsibilities and withdraw from normal social activities in isolation. Being a ghost can do enough damage to make us vulnerable to anti-mination and pain, which makes us more likely to be impulsive to alleviate that anguish. We turn to online remedies to drive ourselves out of that inner hell.

Not only this pain sorrow Losing contact after a ghost can lead to many compulsive behaviors. Most of the researchers in the aforementioned Italian studies have been involved before. study About the role of self-esteem and problematic phone use. Many of the anti-missions caused by ghosts often involve feelings of self-doubt and low self-esteem. It’s not surprising to see the effects of lower self-esteem reflected in problematic and addictive phone use.

Ghosts can be predictors of maladaptation and narcissism

The fantasies of maladaptation can be described as immersive fantasy that is overwhelming enough to disrupt everyday life. In short, we “travel” the world to live in a vast range of imagination. writer, Introvertand very creative people love to enter these spaces for a while. But they also know how to get back to the reality of the day, get back the phone, pay bills, and fix dinner. But maladaptive fantasies cause some of us to drift away from reality for too long or live in unstable and suspicious spaces on the internet.

1 study“How to Ghost and stress The effects of fragile narcissism and maladaptive fantasies revealed connections between anti-mission, ghosts and specific behaviors. The fantasies of maladjustment temporarily satisfy or comfort those who were ghostly grabbed by anti-mission and pain.

This study, which involved 301 Vietnamese university students, explored how ghosts and stress caused maladaptive fantasies and vulnerable narcissism. On psypost articlereported by Quam Dao Pham, one of the researchers. narcissism Trends, leading individuals to over-focus on themselves without accurate and comprehensive self-reflection. ”

Find salvation from ghost anti-induction

Luckily and encouragingly, this study also demonstrated how to do it. Mindfulness It was able to reduce or reduce the effects of anti-mission and distress caused by ghost experiences. Being able to switch our attention to mindfulness and the present moment was key to getting out of spiral negative self-chatter and anti-mission.

Reflecting the benefits of mindfulness and similar practices to alleviate anti-induction article“Breaking the Cycle” cites Jacqueline Olds, a psychiatrist at Harvard University’s Massachusetts General Hospital, Maryland. She recommends:

1. You’re busy doing something else because you find something distracting (exercising, or calling friends)
2. Change location (go to the park)
3. Relying on relaxation techniques and mindfulness practices
4. Directly to a friend
5. Take action to “do one small thing and pass through your circular thoughts.”
6. Be patient with your loop ideas.

Finally, I would like to suggest our strange senses and methods to bring a spiral of anti-mission and pain into ghosts a respect It allows us to switch from negative chatter and tormented feelings. The moment of adoration Default Mode Network Keep us self-referential thinking of our brains (DMN).

When we are ghostly injured, it can help restore a sense of adoration and wonder, even walking through the sunset a bit or looking to music that gives chills. Even amazing and amazing moments can break us out of our headspace and give us a break. Perhaps we will remember for a while the comfort of an open heart, the open sky, and the heartfelt self-compassion.