All the places we can hide

Learning to hide is one way to take care of yourself. It’s a defense against not feeling good about ourselves. It helps us feel safe. We usually don’t respect our own defenses and other defenses. Hearing the accusation that “you are defensive” quickly suggests that something inappropriate is happening. Psyche knows how to take care of you. Even if you may not need it, keeping you safe doesn’t ignore that responsibility.

Some examples of defense include compensation, Displacement, And what I called “hiding.” compensation It happens when we decide that our character has some suspicious flaws and start acting with the extreme opposite of it garbage. We may decide that we are insensitive to others and will begin to act very kindly. Displacement Redirect AN occurs Feelings To someone other than the person we are responding to. An angry person at boss goes home and drives out the dog anger To your boss.

“hiding” It happens when you hide the feelings, beliefs, and intentions behind someone or something else. Others experience people or things that you are hiding behind, not who you are.

Where we hide

We are particularly prone to hide vulnerabilities. These can include feeling an inadequate, lost, confused, or broken heart. We don’t accept these aspects of ourselves, so we decide that others don’t respond favorably to them either.

Explore some popular hideouts.

God. For thousands of years, hiding behind God has been a positive place to evacuate. It’s an easy move. We simply declare that our wishes, beliefs and actions are in line with God’s will. We take the sanctity of simply following the Almighty and abandoning the responsibility of our lives.

Guru and teacher. This is also a good place to hide. We are leaning towards wise Someone who knows everything. We become legal through affiliation. As teacher followers, we are said to be bigger than our normal self. I am reporting on the teacher’s vision. Essentially, the leading figures become parents, and the measure of our maturity is at the expense of it. If we are too dependent on teachers, our plights and struggles do not allow us to discover our strengths and weaknesses. We struggle with things that are really important to us and we have no opportunity to allow it to guide our decisions.

role. We like to hide in roles that have a measure of social prestige. Senator, professor, pastor, healer, or leader It’s a popular choice. I have discovered that many CEOs define themselves as CEOs and people. I saw my parents do the same thing and prioritize them. Identity As a father or mother before becoming a person. We step into our role as a main identity, isolated from criticism, and segregation from the lack of, or cooperation.

work. Any type of work can be a good place to hide. Often, if we are doing a lot, we are assumed to be perceived by others as good people. People know us as hardworking workers, but the rest of us remain infiltrated. Sometimes this can lead to adverse consequences, such as a violation of health and ignoring the quality of family life and friendship. This is especially true when the work provides the desired revenue.

Results and Awards. If they are lucky enough to have some notable results, they can become the desired hideaway. It is a bold comfort to argue that we are primarily our achievements. They could be business achievements, scientific or academic. With public awards, they gain more appeal.

I respected everyone. We can easily hide behind those we deeply respect fear. It could be a mentor, friend, or colleague, Brothersparent, lover, or spouse. We believe that respected people know more about and should be in control of life. We ride their coattails and are safe and comfortable through belonging again.

It comes out of hiding

It’s challenging to come out of hiding. Our cloak life feels like home and is said to provide comfort and safety. Getting a nudge is helpful, but you don’t need to jump the ship before you feel ready. Here are some proposed steps for the coming out process.

Be honest. At first, it is essential to be honest with yourself. If you don’t know, at least we can begin to explore where we may be hidden. Explore with compassion. Your hidden gem is an attempt at self-care.

Think about what you get and lose. Our masked life has helped us in several ways. I’ve avoided at least a few Risk Take And if we appear as ourselves, we must face the reactions of others. This helped us feel safer. But we were also not known about who we really were and compromised our participation in family and friendships.

I feel the feeling. The idea that it is more transparent and visible to others may make us feel I’m worriedI’m worried and resistant.

Please be careful. When we criticized what was hidden, we predicted that if they really knew us, others would respond similarly. That is not generally true. Our own acceptance of who was hidden usually makes it safe to come out.

Tell me your story. Tell your story to someone you trust. You may need professional help to assert what is hidden and live with more transparency and compassion.

It’s essential for those who want to know who you are, but understanding and accepting yourself is a priority. The goal is not to completely remove any places you hide. Your role, job, or relationship with your teacher simply moves to a secondary position when you create your identity. You can think of the heart of your identity as what you love, your longings and longings dreamyour sadness, desires, and beliefs.

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