What should I do today?

I get asked more surprising questions than you think – especially Gen Z Guys and the teenage boys, who are told:

There is no internet. There is no mobile phone. no Social Media. If you want to hang out with someone, you called their landline and hoped they would pick up. Is there no answer? unfortunate. Are there any answering machines? I had to call later.

We were latchkey kids and were raised with Capn’s crunch and benign negligence. We drank from the garden hose, roamed the neighborhood on our BMX bikes, and survived without using sunscreen fillers and sunburned oils.

It wasn’t appealing, but it built something: independence and the belief that no one has come to save you.

It’s not just how analogous it was that it hit the young men I share this with the most. That’s something we had to understand for ourselves a lot. There were no participating trophies. But your actions have had consequences. Some of us were inspired. Still others were attacked with belts and paddles. This has been planted fear If we ruin it, it’s a retaliation, but it has also strengthened you’re responsible for your actions, even if it’s unfair.

Here are some questions these young men really want to ask: What should I do today?

That’s a fair question. Older scripts are no longer meaningful. And something new? Depending on who you ask, they are stuck in the 50s or Manosphere Industrial Park, buy rhino horn extracts, or take control of the masterminds of masculinity.

Young men today face another world. It’s more connected and even more isolated. And there’s a lot of talk about how men shouldn’t act, but there’s not much guidance on what to do instead.

That’s over today.

What it means to be a man today, and five tools to achieve it

Let’s start now. Being a man today is not about controlling, separating, or denying your feelings. It’s about connection, contribution, and character.

The tool may have changed. The world has certainly changed. But that’s not what matters to yourself or others.

So how do you build it?

1. Make male friends in real life

Of course, I’m starting now. That’s the purpose of this blog.

First, start by making real, direct male friends. I’m not a follower. I’m not an acquaintance of group chat. A real friend who knows what you are going through.

reason? man friendship It’s a free fall.

According to the recent Gallup survey cited UVA researcher Joseph Allen1 in 4 young men reported feelings I’m lonely “Lots” from the previous day – As Allen points out, “You’ll admit your loneliness is quite vulnerable, especially for men,” so it’s likely to be underestimated.

why? Because we are told not to talk about emotions, and if that’s the case, we are labeled weak. Because as this wonderful work of “”Manaping“And many of us claim to outsource emotional needs to women, or even worse, YouTube.

Real friendship requires effort. That’s also dangerous. But it’s worth it. You need someone to meet you, support you, and sometimes call you with your burches*t.

2. Practice self-correction

If you are confused inside, you cannot lead, love, or contribute. That’s not a judgment. It’s just reality.

Move your body. Make your sleep right. Start journaling. Learn to name your emotions rather than fill them.

Self-correction is not perfect. It’s about knowing your patterns and not running them. Nor is it about domination. The most capable men don’t talk about it. They do what they need to accomplish.

Do you want to be respected? Start by respecting yourself first.

3. Something will be good

I believe men are at their best when they are often building, modifying, creating and improving. It doesn’t have to be world class. But you need yours. It’s not for influence. nice! Not that. For satisfaction that comes from mastery.

Skill building gives you momentum and it helps to shape the shape Identitymany young men are now missing. Half of young adults say they have no clear meaning or direction. You can get something – anything – is the perfect place to start.

4. I’ll win you Confidence

Confidence is not about being the loudest man in the room. It’s about knowing that you did the job, that you can count on, that you failed and recovered. It’s quiet. It’s solid. And it’s sexy.

5. Contribute to something bigger

This is the ultimate test: what are you doing with your surplus? Are you showing up for others? volunteer? Mentoring? Are you helping out in your community?

Few men live long It was pushed downAnd I feel more fulfilling. As a psychologist Name Alm In another one Today’s Psychology piece:

“Responsible, purpose-driven men who are proactive in making contributions are extremely important to their families, their communities and the world.”

You don’t need to save the world. But you can lift the corner of it.

So, how can you become a man today?

There is no single answer. There is no checklist or guaranteed blueprints. But there are patterns worth repeating and reclaiming.

He appears and becomes a job. Own his stories and become good friends who help others write their own.

Being someone today does not mean rejecting masculinity. That means redefine it with clarity, confidence and care. That means cultivation Resilience Unisolated, unharmed confidence, and cruel powerless power. It means you make friends who will call at 2am, make things you are proud of, and find ways to give you more than you take.

You don’t have to be perfect. You have to be authentic, convenient and a little brave.

And if you’re wondering where to start, help the boys and young guys get better, either as the kind of guy you need when you’re young.